Big Questions? anyone have answers?

I have not blogged in a while, I realize that and I apologize. I've been busy. Frank and I drove to Pennsylvania to spend some time with my family. It was Franks first time in my hometown, so I was really excited to show him all of it. We had a great trip...it was a bit emotional for me. Anyways, I've been trying to get ready for my show, and we are going to KY this weekend and work has been busy. But, here I am back at it.
I think a lot about a lot of things. I am also a huge analyzer. Therefore, I am amazed that I have never even given this matter much thought until recently.
There is a huge difference between young adults (ages 25-35ish) that live in a big city(aka New York, Los Angeles, possibly Chicago) and those that don't. I have analyzed the reason for this.
My theory is that people most often move to big cities because they have big career dreams. Therefore, they spend most of their time working on these things and not neccesarily on developing relationships. It is also more expensive to live in a big city and a lot of people struggle just to get by. It doesn't always allow for travel to get together with family and old friends. In smaller cities, there is a different mindset. I'm not saying that people in smaller cities have smaller dreams, what I'm saying is they make more time for people because they can. It's easier to run into people, not such a hassle to drive to a friends house and it doesn't take nearly as long as a subway trip to a different borough. I am now at an age where a lot of the friends I grew up with are married, many of them have kids....and that whole world still seems so far away to me.
Yes, I want to get married and I want kids, but it is not something I ever felt pressure about until I moved to the south.
I think I only had one married friend in New York and that was perfectly acceptable. Look at Sex and the City. All those lovely single girls, they wanted love but couldn't find it. Let me just tell you, it is so much harder in a big city. Now, I am left with this struggle, how do I persue a happy family life and try to advance in my performing career? There are opportunities here in TN, but they are not career opps. My other question is......how do new mom's do it without family close by to help. Are new moms basically forced to be stay at home until their kids go to school. Daycare seems very impersonal and expensive, I really don't see myself wanting to go that route. I am just now beginning to understand why women with new babies want to be close to their families.
Disclaimer: These are all simply thoughts I have been pondering. They are in no way reflective of current happenings in my life. I am simply commenting on these topics because I seem to be surrounded by pregnant married people. :)
I realize this statement could easily be misconstrued (please don't do that)