Big Questions? anyone have answers?

I have not blogged in a while, I realize that and I apologize. I've been busy. Frank and I drove to Pennsylvania to spend some time with my family. It was Franks first time in my hometown, so I was really excited to show him all of it. We had a great trip...it was a bit emotional for me. Anyways, I've been trying to get ready for my show, and we are going to KY this weekend and work has been busy. But, here I am back at it.
I think a lot about a lot of things. I am also a huge analyzer. Therefore, I am amazed that I have never even given this matter much thought until recently.
There is a huge difference between young adults (ages 25-35ish) that live in a big city(aka New York, Los Angeles, possibly Chicago) and those that don't. I have analyzed the reason for this.
My theory is that people most often move to big cities because they have big career dreams. Therefore, they spend most of their time working on these things and not neccesarily on developing relationships. It is also more expensive to live in a big city and a lot of people struggle just to get by. It doesn't always allow for travel to get together with family and old friends. In smaller cities, there is a different mindset. I'm not saying that people in smaller cities have smaller dreams, what I'm saying is they make more time for people because they can. It's easier to run into people, not such a hassle to drive to a friends house and it doesn't take nearly as long as a subway trip to a different borough. I am now at an age where a lot of the friends I grew up with are married, many of them have kids....and that whole world still seems so far away to me.
Yes, I want to get married and I want kids, but it is not something I ever felt pressure about until I moved to the south.
I think I only had one married friend in New York and that was perfectly acceptable. Look at Sex and the City. All those lovely single girls, they wanted love but couldn't find it. Let me just tell you, it is so much harder in a big city. Now, I am left with this struggle, how do I persue a happy family life and try to advance in my performing career? There are opportunities here in TN, but they are not career opps. My other question is......how do new mom's do it without family close by to help. Are new moms basically forced to be stay at home until their kids go to school. Daycare seems very impersonal and expensive, I really don't see myself wanting to go that route. I am just now beginning to understand why women with new babies want to be close to their families.
Disclaimer: These are all simply thoughts I have been pondering. They are in no way reflective of current happenings in my life. I am simply commenting on these topics because I seem to be surrounded by pregnant married people. :)
I realize this statement could easily be misconstrued (please don't do that)

I had a nightmare!

I don't think I am making the best use of my time. I am performing my one woman show in (Gasp) 18 days! Just because I did the show two times over two years ago does not mean that it is ready. I have a different accompanist a different venue and a different type of audience. My nightmare last night consisted of me getting ready for the show. I wasn't dressed, had no makeup on, and I don't think i had really rehearsed; I was not ready. Well, with the act in front of me I assumed I would have plenty of time. Next thing I know, they are saying it's my turn. I wasn't ready. I needed more time, so they said they could hold for me for 7 minutes. I panicked and then thankfully woke up.
The meaning of this dream is painfully obvious, I need to kick my butt into high gear and get this show ready for performance!. Yikes!

Story at 11: Jerry Seinfeld holds up McDonalds in Chicago and forces them to fry a ho ho!

I'm super excited to be going to Chicago this weekend, and I want to really experience the city. I never thought it would be possible for "moi" to travel lightly. I try to be low maintenance, and for the most part I am, but I require a lot of things for my daily routine. ......and now that the airlines have implemented all these liquid rules about how much face cleaner you can carry on with you, well it just makes my job that much more difficult. However, I do believe that I have succeeded! One Rolly bag with clothes and toiletries absolutely small enough to fit inside an overhead bin "CHECK". Granted, I will probably have to bring a really big purse so I can fit overflow.....but hey, I'm making progress.
Frank and I went to see Jerry Seinfeld last night. Frank has seen him live two other times, and told me i was in for a treat. Of course i was expecting great things! J. S. has had an amazing career, he's just funny, the sound of his voice, the inflection...just funny. He also has the Bill Cosby, no need to curse thing going for him, that is respectable in of itself. For those of you who know me well, you will know that I don't really curse. I have a few choice words, but you will most likely never hear any of the big ones drop from my mouth. I don't judge people that do use it, it's a free country, i just choose not to. Back to the show....the bar did a really clever thing and had two Seinfeld themed drinks "the yadda yadda yadda, and man hands" I had a yadda yadda yadda...it tasted like a cosmo. A drink before a comedy show is a good idea (according to Frank) is loosens you up a little and gets you ready for the laughs! I am going to rate the show6 out of 10. I know that may sound harsh, but I really wanted and expected to laugh more than I did. He had some very funny material, but I guess just not as much that I personally could relate with. Definately worth the money, but not the best comedy show I have ever seen.
On the way home Frank and I discussed, among other things....fried food. These days, people fry everything, from twinkies, to snickers, to onions, to....well you name it they fry it. However we came up with two things that "to the best of our knowledge" have not been fried/tried....peppers, and ho ho's. I don't like peppers, so they don't really interest me. I figured there was probably a reason why people don't do fried peppers. But the ho ho's ......Hey, if there is someone out there with a fryer, please try frying a ho ho and let me know how it turns out. :)

How to make the most of the time you've got

Now, this is just my opinion so you can choose to take it or leave it buster!
I always find that I am the most productive when I give myself goals. For instance, I have a plan that I put into action when I really want to get something done or accomplish something big! It's called...Operation Get things Done! The idea behind this plan, is to complete at least one task each day that gets me closer to my goal. This way, I never have a day that slips by without something productive being accomplished. Time and opportunity are fleeting and life is so unpredictable. Make each moment count. If you are sitting around doing nothing, that's fine, but at least be thinking of the next productive thing you can do. And do everything you do with purpose! Believe me, I know how easy it can be to be lazy and kind of half do something........but I am trying so hard to make sure that whatever I'm doing, I'm giving it my all. Be responsible for your actions and take your responsibilities seriously. No one is perfect, but as long as you are trying and constantly trying to improve, your life will be so much more meaningful and enjoyable. Be ambitious and driven and go into each day with a purpose. Be kind to one another and never leave things on a sour note. Remember to err is human to forgive is divine! Go out there and be divine with your bad self! Word to yo' mother!