Crying to get your way.........is it such a bad thing?

I consider myself to be an extremely sensitive person. Sensitive to what others are feeling, and sensitive to extreme situations in general. As I've gotten older, my sensitivites have adapted and changed somewhat. And me/I, being the analytical monster that I am, continue to analyze these changes. So far, I have come to no conclusion.


But, the one thing that hasn't changed, is that I still cry. Now, not all the time mind you, but it happens....and sometimes when i don't even expect it to. For instance, a few months ago I was making the trip from Nashville to Memphis (about a three hour drive) I was on the phone with my mom and looked in the rearview mirror and I saw flashing lights. * Oh crap* I let my mom go, and attempted to pull over onto the curb. While I was waiting for the policeman to come over, I was completely prepared to be strong and apologize for whatever, and let it be. But instead of that, I got kind of nervous and shaky. I don't get pulled over EVER! Anyways, he asked me for my license and registration and while i started looking in the glove box, I started crying........When the policeman saw me, he said why are you crying.....I said, i'm sorry I can't help it...I'm a sensitive person. (yes, i said that). I think I actually saw the policeman laugh to himself and he said, how about if you promise to slow down and drive more carefully. Millions of people are dying on these roads every day and I don't want you to be one of them.


Ha ha........Success!


Unfortunately for them, I don't think it is possible for men to be quite as sucessful with this tactic. Now let me clear something up, I did not go in with the intention of crying to get out of the ticket, it just came up out of me and seemed to be working, so I went with it.


Another example happened back in college. This time, I was in Austria doing a voice program. I was cast in a very special concert and needed to find the perfect pair of shoes. I took the day off of my classes to comb through every single store that sold shoes in the entire city of Graz! Well, I was at the end of my search and exhausted so i bought the only pair i found that I thought might possibly work. Took them back to my room and tried them on with the Dress for the consulation of my wardrobe team (My two fabulous and gay friends). The conclusion was this. They would do, but I spent too much money on them and should return them. Besides, the shoes I had brought from home were just as fine. It's a good thing I made sure I could return the shoes before I bought them.


Well, the next day, I went to take back the shoes, and the clerk at the register informed me, i couldn't return them.(In german) *We are also dealing with a slight language barrier here*


I started to panic, the whole point of returning the shoes was to get my money back, because I really couldn't afford them. I could see I wasn't getting anywhere with this clerk, and before you know it....the tears came. Please, I was told i could return these shoes, I can't afford them, I won't have money to eat(i didn't say that one). The manager came over and said please don't cry what's the problem. We went over everything again, and he said they don't usually give refunds, but that he would this time for me. He gave me my money back plus a little extra I think and I got a free shoe shine! :) What a great deal!


My friend (let's call her) Shiba told me i was giving fellow sisters a bad wrap. But, I don't think it's a bad thing. It's not like I want to cry about these things, but I think i panic and get really frustrated and just don't know what else to do. I admit it's a bit of a cop out, but people deal with things in different ways. I don't really get mad and angry I get sad and disappointed and frustrated. I would much rather cry and get sympathy than rant and rage and get mad and get nowhere! Do you agree?